Welcome to my post. I’m glad you’re here.
You’re probably here to learn a little about Toronto (my new city) and being an Urban Explorer (which I am). But to be honest, that’s just scratching the surface.
Because what we all really want to know is much deeper. We want to know the things we can’t find on the web. The subtle, sometimes surprising elements that make the world such a delicious place. The messages beyond the words. The voice beyond the letters. The art contained within the simplest of images.
We’ll get there.
But for now, let’s talk about urban-based travel…
When I head out onto the concrete sea, it’s never just about getting from one place to the next. I am always a bit breathless in anticipation of the adventures that will ensue and have likely exhausted all the cooked-up means I’ve developed to keep my excitement at bay.
You see, the world is full of whatever it is you decide to see.
#1. Contribute your full attention
At the heart of urban exploring is people. And people deserve to have your undeniable, unabashed attention. It’s a big win for them; and for you.
You can accomplish this by things like…
a. Looking at people when you’re speaking to them
Looking doesn’t mean examining their physical shell. It means opening your eyes to who they are. It’s paying attention to the story their face tells. It’s listening to the strength in their voice – or the fear. It’s matching their energy as to invite them in. Because conversation isn’t about icebreakers; it’s about genuinely and purposefully designating someone the focus of your world for the time you share space.
This doesn’t need to be about their deepest secrets or best-kept fantasy – but rather something about them you genuinely want to know based on what you initially see. If they’re walking their dog, they might like to talk about that. If it’s a hot day and you aren’t seeing anything obvious to discuss – then perhaps the weather to start. Conversation isn’t the magical art it’s made out to be. It’s really just about making a connection and demonstrating well-intentioned curiosity. Somewhere deep down, we’re a all a little more alive when someone expresses a sincere desire to learn about who we are.
Different than inventing a complement, but yes; it could be that their eyes are the most unique honey-colored shade. More often, it’s about taking the time to notice what someone brings to the world. Because any time we can remind someone they matter is precious.
Next time… Seeking opportunities to help